Dear Starbucks:

Bless you for your venti soy chai lattes. If it weren't for you, I would be comatose right now.


Thx,
H

Here we go.... again.

So, I moved salons. Again. I don't even know and its probably not important HOW many I've worked in over the last 13-14 years. I only just recently stopped working from home while on my 'sabbatical' from Salon Life, and I didn't realize or give myself enough credit for being a businessman/entrepreneur. I'm back at Pure Spa, and in this half a week, I've been pretty much full time... and I've gotten so much NEW business and cooperation from my co-workers that I'm a little dumbfounded. I really can't believe I wasted 6 weeks at the other place.. not really wasted but it was VERY slow, unorganized and not me. I like order, efficiency, dependability, and cooperation... what I feel I bring to the table wherever I work.

I am definitely in the middle of a transition, and I feel my presence is not only valued, but NEEDED.. so I'm happy to be of service, but I haven't had a full day off in 15 days. I'm tired and amped up at the same time.

Heather and I were talking while I did her weekly haircolor, that I was afraid I would go back into full-on Workaholic mode... which hasn't been the case. I have managed to set aside time for myself... That is a NEW concept for me.

I know I'm rambling, so I'll shut up. Just wanted to share a little bit of my 'ordered chaos'.

peace-

R

The Hag.

It is a little disconcerting that I, by default and general nature, fit the typical description of a "fag hag" -- fat, glasses.

Well I'm working on getting rid of the fat and I wear contacts a lot of the time.

I think it is extremely amusing that I seem to have been predispositioned to my road to hagdom. My best friend was gay before I was very aware of what "gay" was or before he was even out of the closet!

And of course now, most any man I find attractive IS indeed gay or has some sort of feminine tendencies.

It's not that I am anti testosterone in any form or fashion, in fact, the more the better, I really love it. But what is this about me that is so drawn to the homosexual man, even subconsciously?

I often joke that I'm a gay man in a woman's body but as I get older I almost wonder if it's even a joke.

I don't have much to say, but this band, Florence and the Machine, is AMAZING.

And this song (it's just the song, not a video, but you can listen!) is EXACTLY how I am feeling lately. ;)




xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo

Make it or BREAK it...

Breaking up is hard to do, right? Or is being broken up with is even harder?

I really prefer neither. If you break up with someone, then they can play the victim card and you get to be called: "asshole", "psycho", or my personal favorite "emotionally unavailable".

If you get broken up with, then you question what it is that you could have possibly done to warrant such heartache: Am I cute enough? etc. etc. etc.

I think most people prefer to take the victim role. This is just from YEARS of observation being a hairdresser... No one really likes to do the dirty work, but Goddamn do they LOVE to bask in the misery!!!

I recently had to "breakup" with someone I wasn't even in a relationship with. He was cool with it, at first. Then the Text Attacks and Emails started.... just trying to get the last word in... not even realizing that the last words were already from HIM.

I don't know about you, but I can generally tell from about the 2nd week, and DEFINITELY by the 3rd week if something's not gonna work out. Mostly its just instinct. I'm sure that you've felt it before. Something's just... off. This past year has really made me question what I'm willing to offer up in the name of Love. Comfort is way up there. I have REPEATEDLY gone outside of my comfort zone in order to make someone else feel: comfortable, worthy, adequate, INTELLIGENT... the list goes on.

I surely have my own personality flaws. I'm not perfect, at all. I never claim to be either. I'm 34 years old, recovering from a plethora of issues that used to seem like they were unfixable. But they are fixable.

I don't think at this point, I should stall my progress for the sake of stroking someone else's ego. I know it sounds and probably IS selfish, but if I ain't good to me then I can be absolutely no use to anyone else. That's the deal.

Sometimes its worth a short feeling of pain and discomfort to break something off with someone, because in the long run its gonna hurt more if you don't. Both parties.

When I am ready for the relationship bridge, I'll most definitely and with little trepidation

cross it. That's how I roll. It could be 10 years from now.... or tomorrow. I simply don't know when, but in the meantime I find it better to USE my own feelings as a guideline rather than QUESTION them.

I think most of us have conditioned ourselves to think how we can 'complete' or 'be completed'

by or for someone else. We tend to not consider what we can ADD to the equation. I don't really want to ever feel like my happiness depends on what someone else thinks about me again. And furthermore, someone else to put their happiness in my hands.... depending on me to 'complete' them. No.

I see such pettiness in most relationships. Keep the stakes low and you lose less. Never really thinking how much you could win back from a true emotional investment.

The next time I put my heart out on the table, I want to be comfortable knowing I'll either win (or lose) big.

peace,

R

yummy

I thought I'd post the recipe here for some DAMN good cookies. I made these like 3x over the Xmas holidays, they are soooooooooooo good.


Cocoa Cherry Drop Cookies

(1 stick)plus 2 tablespoons butter or margarine, softened
1 cup sugar
1 egg
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1-1/4 cups all-purpose flour
6 tablespoons HERSHEY'S Cocoa
1/2 teaspoon baking soda
1/2 teaspoon salt
1 cup chopped maraschino cherries, well drained
1/2 cup chopped walnuts
Walnut pieces(optional)

1. Heat oven to 350°F.

2. Beat butter and sugar in large bowl until light and fluffy; beat in egg and vanilla. Stir together flour, cocoa, baking soda and salt; stir into butter mixture. Stir in cherries and chopped walnuts. Drop by rounded teaspoons onto ungreased cookie sheet. Press walnut piece onto each cookie, if desired.

3. Bake 10 to 12 minutes or until set. Cool slightly; remove from cookie sheet to wire rack. Cool completely. About 3 dozen cookies.

I'm thinking long and hard about what I'm gonna write next.

I think it'll be a doozy.